Listening Into Being
Since Molly and I began co-creating Exquisite Being, we’ve returned again and again to one foundational pillar: listening.
It was the 13th Gene Key that opened this door for us — a transmission so tender and true that the first time I heard it, I wept.
It reminded me of something Dicken Bettinger once said:
“We can listen people into well-being.”
Dicken is a teacher of the Three Principles — a spiritual psychology I’ve studied over the years. His words live in me.
This week, I went on a hike with a former client. Along the way, she paused and said, “You’re one of the best listeners I’ve ever been with.” I smiled, of course. But later, what stayed with me was the question:
What first made me fall in love with listening?
I’ve written about this before, but today I see something new:
I don’t listen because it’s helpful.
I listen because I’m deeply curious about what emerges when I do.
When I listen, life reveals itself.
A subtle shift in breath.
A phrase that wants to be spoken.
A truth waiting to be seen.
It’s humbling. It takes the pressure off to say the right thing or perform.
Listening reminds me I don’t have to figure anything out.
When I don’t know what to say, I’ve started to see:
That’s my cue to listen a little longer.
I remember something George Pransky once said:
“Our natural state is listening.”
George is another wise teacher from the Three Principles community, whose work helped me begin to see this for myself.
I never fully understood his words until today.
Because now I can feel it —
Not as a technique,
But as a remembering.
My body is always listening.
It’s just that my mind has a louder radio.
But I’m learning to turn the dial.
To listen not with effort, but with trust.
Because when I do, life responds.
It always has.
“When we truly listen, we become a mirror for others to see themselves clearly.”
Reflection Prompts
Let these questions invite you into your own experience of listening:
Who in your life has made you feel deeply heard? What made that experience meaningful?
What arises in you when you listen without needing to respond?
